The question
My son is ten. I discovered that he took an amount from his older brother's drawer and spent part of it before I found out, and part is still with him.
How do I act in this case?
Our answer
Stealing is something many children go through and try, but that doesn't mean they fully understand what they're doing or adopt it as an ongoing behaviour. So I think you should sit with him and explain matters to him, and pose a question: if the same thing happened to you, how would you act? If you had a sum of money and your brother came and took it, how would your feeling be?
Teach him to ask for his needs openly without the need for sneaking and stealing. Truthfulness is the means of dealing between you. As his mother, it will not please you that he behave like a thief. We are one family and we must preserve the beauty of the relationship between us. And so on — arrange the ideas for him in sequence and logic so he understands exactly where the problem is and behaves better. Remind him that Allah, the Exalted, sees him even when you and his siblings don't, and that Allah exposed him to you so you could advise him and he doesn't steal. Mention to him how Allah warned against theft in the Qur'an. May Allah grant you success in raising and caring for him well.
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