The question
I have a nine-year-old boy and a seven-and-a-half-year-old girl. They tire me greatly when it comes to the prayer. When they pray, they pray in jest and play. They rush through it and look around during the prayer.
What do I do with them?
Our answer
May Allah preserve you. They must be separated during prayer — meaning, make sure each one of them prays alone and seriously. Take each of them aside separately and explain to him that he is standing before Allah, the Majestic, so let him have adab in his prayer. Continue to follow up with them in this until they acquire seriousness and khushu'. And beware that they witness the opposite around them — that they see an adult laughing in prayer, or someone mocking those who pray. Do not laugh, and do not respond to them with anything positive at all when they do this. Rather, make them feel that you are sad and very displeased with their behaviour, and that this is not befitting the Muslim child.
I advise you to hold sessions of reflection and contemplation, connecting the child to Allah, the Exalted. Use our materials in the stories of the Prophets, the Muslim's adab, and the creed cards. Build an atmosphere of seriousness around knowing Allah, the Exalted. Their hearts will settle on love of Him, fear of Him, and hope in Him, by Allah's leave. And du'a is your means.
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