How do I raise my son with strength and gentleness?

How do I raise my son with strength and gentleness? . Creed & Worship . My son is two and a half. I began the curriculum with him and, alhamdulillah, it has benefited him greatly. He has even memorized parts of the Qur'an. I play the repetition for him and it has helped tremendously — he has memorized in a very short time, alhamdulillah. But I deal with him gently and softly in everything. The problem is that my husband doesn't like my gentleness with him. For example, when my son breaks one of his toys, he starts grumbling and yelling at him and insulting him, and he criticizes me a lot when he doesn't see an angry reaction from me. We had a fight because I asked him to stop this. I'm confused about my husband and I fear for my son. I'm afraid he'll ruin my upbringing and effort with him. What's the solution? . At two and a half, it is truly unfortunate for him to be dealt with harshly and impatiently. He is still tender and fresh, and he is now learning from your styles of tarbiyah and replicating them in his character — which is formed in the first six years. My advice to you, and this is a problem you are not alone in facing, and one that continues through every stage of tarbiyah: prepare a sitting with your husband and gather to discuss how you raise your son. Let your reference be the Qur'an and the Sunnah, and the greatest school: the school of the Prophet ﷺ. Speak with a sense of responsibility and tell him that the child is a trust from Allah, the Exalted. Make your fears clear, and agree together on a tarbiyah policy that doesn't repeat the mistakes of our parents' upbringing, and doesn't leave the child to be raised by chance. Tarbiyah is a science. Constructive dialogue is very important in solving problems, especially since tarbiyah is a responsible process that continues all the time, requiring understanding and cooperation, not disagreement. How often does one parent build, only for the other to come and demolish all their effort without even meaning to. So address this point now, with constructive, respectful dialogue that raises the sense of responsibility and offers knowledge your husband can benefit from. Without any tone of condescension or wounding — only the speech of one who cares and carries the responsibility of raising a generation that worships Allah as those before us did. In the end, my counsel to you: do not give up, do not retreat. Continue raising your little one whatever the challenges, for success is from Allah, the Exalted, the Almighty. Try to soften the effects of any wrong behavior from his father in how you deal with it. Try to avoid the clash between the child and his father. You can let your little one play at some distance from his father, or work to lessen the moments of collision between them in one way or another. And beware of a feeling of resentment growing in the little one toward his father. Rather, let him learn over time to accept and accommodate his father, even if his father does not change or improve his treatment of him — for this is the dutifulness Allah has commanded children with. Ask your little one not to do this because his father gets angry, or to spare bothering Baba, and so on. He will learn to handle his father himself, and this will build in him a beautiful sense of responsibility, of a small man on the way. With du'a and striving, you will achieve blessed results, by Allah's leave. Seek Allah's help and do not despair. May Allah delight your eyes with your little one and make him an imam of the God-fearing.